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For years, society has often placed the status of having a partner as a measure of a woman’s success in life. Not a few women feel left behind just because they are not married or don’t have a partner. In fact, if you look at it from a psychology, health or self-development perspective, there are many things that are much more important to prepare than just pursuing relationship status.
In the Superwoman Series, we learn that strong women are not women who always look perfect. Strong women are those who continue to grow from various sides, namely physical, mental, social, spiritual and financial. Healthy relationships are certainly a blessing, but relationships are not the main basis of life. This foundation is actually built through personal qualities that will remain useful, whether someone is single or when they have a family.
On Superwoman SeriesThis 110th time, I will discuss 9 things that should be a priority before thinking about having a partner.
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1. Have a steady source of income
Financial independence is a form of freedom. A woman who has a fixed income will have more freedom to make decisions in her life. He does not easily depend on other people to fulfill his basic needs or develop his potential.
Various studies show that stable economic conditions are associated with better psychological well-being. Income is not just about money, but also provides a sense of security, increases self-confidence, and opens up opportunities to continue learning and developing.
When someone has the ability to meet their own needs, the relationship they have is healthier because it is built on complementarity, rather than excessive dependence on each other.
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2. Have emergency savings
Life is full of uncertainty. Job loss, sudden medical expenses, or other emergencies can come without warning.
For this reason, having emergency savings is much more important than simply pursuing prestige or fulfilling a temporary lifestyle. Emergency savings provide financial protection as well as peace of mind when facing unexpected situations.
Women who are financially prepared tend to be more able to make rational decisions than those who are always under economic pressure.
Emergency savings doesn’t mean it has to be hundreds of millions of rupiah. The most important thing is to build the habit of saving consistently according to your abilities.
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3. Have a clear life goal
Someone who knows their life’s purpose will have direction in every decision they make.
Life goals can be career aspirations, education, social service, building a family, or providing benefits to the surrounding environment. This goal becomes a compass when facing various challenges.
Research in the field of positive psychology shows that having meaning in life is closely related to psychological well-being, motivation, and the ability to deal with life’s stresses.
Your partner can be your travel companion, but you must still have the direction of your journey.
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4. Have a hobby that makes money
Hobbies are often considered just activities to fill free time. In fact, the development of the creative economy shows that many hobbies can develop into additional sources of income.
Singing, painting, making handicrafts, cooking, photography, graphic design, and raising animals can now provide economic value if pursued seriously. Apart from generating additional income, hobbies also help maintain mental health because they provide space to express creativity and reduce stress.
When a person is able to obtain economic benefits as well as happiness from his hobby, he has a very good capital to face the changing times.
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5. Have a constructive community
Humans are social creatures. No one is able to develop alone.
A healthy community provides emotional support, learning opportunities, sharing experiences, and expanding professional networks.
Various studies show that social support is an important factor in building resilience or the ability to recover from difficulties. People who have a positive environment tend to be better able to deal with life’s stresses than those who feel alone.
Therefore, choose an environment that encourages growth, not an environment that tends to bring down or spread negative energy.
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6. Have a regular exercise schedule
The body is an asset that will be used throughout life. Regular exercise not only improves physical fitness, but also helps maintain mental health. Physical activity has been proven to reduce the risk of depression, reduce anxiety, improve sleep quality, and improve cognitive function.
You don’t have to do heavy exercise straight away. Walking, cycling, swimming, rhythmic gymnastics or playing volleyball several times a week can provide enormous benefits if done consistently.
Superwoman doesn’t mean you have to have a body like an athlete. Superwoman is a woman who respects her body by maintaining health every day.
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7. Have a strengthening mother figure
Not everyone has a perfect relationship with their mother. However, if a woman has a mother figure who provides love, support and a positive role model, then this is an extraordinary gift.
Mother is often the first school in life. From him, someone learns about empathy, resilience, hard work, and how to face various challenges.
If a relationship with the biological mother is not possible for various reasons, a substitute figure such as a grandmother, aunt, teacher, or adult woman who provides a positive role model can also be a source of strength.
Ultimately, strong women are often born from environments that provide consistent emotional support.
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8. Have a faithful God
When everything changes, humans need an unchanging grip.
Faith and spirituality have long been researched as factors that help people deal with life’s stresses. People who have a good religious life tend to have hope, optimism, and the ability to accept difficult situations more calmly.
Belief in God also reminds us that a person’s self-worth is not determined by their relationship status, appearance, or other people’s judgment.
Couples can come and go. Positions can change. Assets can increase or decrease. However, strong faith will remain a source of comfort and strength throughout life.
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9. Have the belief that women must be strong
This sentence does not mean that women never cry or never experience failure. A strong woman is a woman who is willing to rise every time she falls.
Resilience is not an innate talent, but rather an ability that continues to be trained through life experience, learning, social support, and courage to face challenges.
Various studies on resilience show that adaptability can be developed throughout life. The more someone learns to face difficulties healthily, the greater their ability to face the next challenge.
Therefore, never doubt your potential just because the current situation is not as expected. Believe that every woman has the opportunity to be the best version of herself.
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CLOSURE
Having a partner is certainly something beautiful if the relationship is built on mutual respect, responsibility and commitment. However, making a partner the only goal in life can actually make someone lose the opportunity to develop.
A Superwoman is not measured by her relationship status, but rather by her quality of character, health, ability to manage finances, healthy social relationships, enthusiasm for learning, spiritual closeness, and her belief in continuing to grow.
When these 9 basics have been built well, the presence of a partner is no longer a complement that covers up shortcomings, but instead becomes a travel companion to grow together towards a more meaningful life.
Superwoman Series #110 reminds us that a truly strong woman is a woman who is able to stand tall with her own qualities. If one day your partner shows up, that’s a bonus. However, even if you are not present, life can still be lived meaningfully, productively and full of hope.
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