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In several previous series, the Superwoman Series has discussed the importance of building physical, mental, social and spiritual health. We have talked about sports, financial management, competency development, controlling impulsive behavior, and the importance of having skills that are useful for other people. All of these discussions have one common thread, namely that women should not be limited by unfounded assumptions.
Unfortunately, until now there are still many social standards developing in society and on social media which can actually hinder women’s development. Standards like these often sound normal because they are repeated over and over again. In fact, if viewed from the perspective of health science, psychology, economics and law, some of them do not have a strong basis.
As part of Superwoman SeriesIn the 141st, I discuss 9 wrong assumptions about women that are worth reexamining.
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1. Women who exercise regularly are tomboys, while those who are addicted to shopping are real women
This is a stereotype that is still often encountered. Sport is an activity to maintain a healthy body. There is no research that shows that women lose their identity just because they exercise diligently. On the other hand, physical activity helps maintain heart, bone, muscle and mental health.
Likewise with shopping. Shopping is a normal economic activity when done according to needs. However, if it turns into impulsive behavior or addiction, this can actually be detrimental to your financial condition and psychological health.
A woman’s identity is not determined by her shopping habits or the type of sport she chooses.
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2. Women don’t need to work, just use their husband’s money to satisfy their shopping addiction
Not all families have the same role distribution pattern. There are families who choose one partner to focus on taking care of the household, and that is a valid decision if mutually agreed upon. However, what needs to be avoided is the mindset that your partner is only a source of money to fulfill consumer desires.
Financial independence, skills, or the ability to produce value are still important for women, both women who work outside the home and those who work from inside the home. Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, not exploitation.
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3. Crying easily makes a woman more beautiful
Crying is a normal emotional response. There is nothing wrong when someone cries because of loss, sadness, or the stress of life.
However, crying is not a measure of beauty or grace. What is more important is the ability to manage emotions healthily. Women who are able to act wisely, empathetically and remain humane in dealing with problems often leave a more positive impression than simply showing outbursts of emotion.
Emotional intelligence is much more important than just the intensity of emotional expression.
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4. You have to be a fanatic to be a K-Pop fan
It’s normal to like certain music, films, or culture. Problems arise when admiration turns into fanaticism that makes someone neglect education, work, health, or social relationships.
On the other hand, hobbies can also be a means of learning. For example, learning a foreign language, understanding other cultures, developing skills in dancing, playing music, public speaking, graphic design, photography, or building a positive community.
Hobbies will be more useful if they become a means of developing competence, not just unlimited consumption of entertainment.
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5. Creating Sensational Content is an Achievement
In the age of social media, attention is often considered a measure of success. As a result, some people are tempted to create information that is exaggerated, misleading, or even untrue in order to gain a high number of viewers.
In fact, the spread of false information, defamation or content that violates the law can give rise to criminal legal consequences, including based on the laws and regulations in force in Indonesia.
Achievement is not measured by how exciting the content is. Achievement is measured by the benefits, honesty and positive impact provided to society.
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6. The thicker the makeup, the cooler it is
Makeup is a form of self-expression and art. There are people who like natural makeup. There are those who like artistic makeup. There are also those who choose not to use makeup at all.
There is no scientific evidence that the thickness of makeup determines a person’s self-esteem. What is more important is to understand the purpose of its use. If wearing makeup makes someone feel more beautiful and is done healthily, that is a personal choice.
However, self-esteem should not depend solely on cosmetics. Healthy skin, personal hygiene, a good attitude and healthy self-confidence have a much greater influence on the positive impression a person displays.
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7. Excessive Passive Entertainment is a Form of Self-Love
Resting and seeking entertainment are human needs. However, if all free time is filled with passive consumption of entertainment without balance, personal development can be hampered.
Self-love doesn’t mean always pampering yourself. Self-love also means maintaining health, learning new skills, improving habits, and developing potential. As women continue to grow, women also have greater opportunities to share knowledge and help others.
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8. Cyberbullying Is Cool
Not a few people feel braver to insult other people because they are behind the scenes. In fact, the impact of cyberbullying is very real. Victims can experience stress, anxiety, depression, and even withdraw from social life.
Apart from that, in Indonesia there are legal provisions that can be used to criminally prosecute certain forms of bullying or insults in the digital space.
Respecting others on the internet should be just as important as respecting others in the real world.
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9. Online Gambling Is a Smart Way to Earn Money
This is a very dangerous assumption. Online gambling is a cruel trap that is deliberately designed so that the organizers gain profits in the long term. Some players may win briefly, but statistically most will experience losses if they continue playing.
Apart from financial losses, online gambling is also associated with the risk of addiction, family conflict, psychological stress and debt problems.
No shortcut can replace the value of hard work, skill and good financial management. Sustainable prosperity is built through honest effort, not through gambling.
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CLOSURE
As part of Superwoman Series #141, this edition invites Sista to be more critical of various social standards in circulation. Don’t easily accept assumptions just because they are often repeated. Measure every piece of advice against science, ethics, and its impact on life.
A strong woman is not a woman who tries to fulfill all of society’s stereotypes. Strong women are those who dare to maintain their healthy bodies, develop their knowledge, work honestly, manage their emotions, respect other people, and continue to grow into useful individuals. Because, in the end, the best standards are not standards created by momentary trends, but standards that help someone live healthier, more humanely, more independently, and care more about others.
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