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Welcome back to Superwoman Seriesthe 122nd, a series that discusses how women can become strong from various sides, from physical, mental, social, to spiritual.
So far, many people think that beauty is only determined by physical appearance. In fact, various studies in the field of social psychology show that women’s beauty is also influenced by competence, the ability to control emotions, communication ethics, and the way they treat other people. This means that a woman who has an attractive appearance can look less attractive if her daily habits are bad. On the other hand, a woman with a simple appearance can radiate beauty because of her pleasant attitude.
Here are 9 habits that can unknowingly reduce a woman’s beauty in the eyes of other people.
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1. Often late for school or work
Delays are not a physical problem. However, this habit creates the impression that a person is undisciplined, lacks respect for time, and is less trustworthy.
In social life and the world of work, discipline is a form of respect for other people. People who always arrive on time are usually considered more professional, responsible and polite. On the other hand, no matter how beautiful a face is, it will be difficult to give a positive impression if its owner is known for making other people wait. True beauty always goes with responsibility.
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2. Easily angry and emotional
Excessive angry expressions make the face look tense. Facial muscles often contract, speech becomes high pitched, and body language becomes aggressive. More than that, uncontrolled anger makes other people feel uncomfortable interacting with.
Research in psychology shows that the ability to regulate emotions is an important factor in the quality of social relationships. Women who are able to control their emotions are usually more respected than those who easily explode over small issues.
Calm doesn’t mean weak. Instead, calm shows mental strength.
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3. Does not like to help fellow human beings
Kindness is a form of beauty that is most easily felt by other people. Someone who is reluctant to help, is indifferent to other people’s difficulties, or only cares about their own interests is often considered unpleasant even though they have an attractive physical appearance.
Social psychology shows that prosocial behavior, such as teaching children in an orphanage or helping sick elderly people, can improve the quality of relationships between people and build a positive reputation.
Beauty is not only seen by the eyes, but also felt through the treatment we give to others.
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4. Wear clothes that are not ironed
Not everyone has to wear expensive clothes. However, wrinkled clothes give the impression of being less neat, less careful, and less concerned about appearance.
Appearance does not mean having skin as white as rice, a body as thin as a stick, or hair as straight as spaghetti. A simple appearance in clean, neat and well-ironed clothes is actually more beautiful than an attractive appearance in wrinkled clothes. Taking care of our clothes is a form of respect for ourselves as well as for the people we meet.
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5. Shopping addiction
Shopping is absolutely not wrong. However, if it has turned into a habit that is difficult to control, the impact will not only be on your financial condition, but also on your mental health.
Women who are addicted to shopping often feel satisfied for only a moment, then the desire to buy new things arises. Ironically, the cupboards get fuller and fuller, but the feeling of satisfaction never really lasts. Beauty is not measured by the number of branded items owned, but by the ability to manage oneself wisely.
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6. Watching soap operas too often
Watching soap operas is not something wrong.
The problem arises when almost all of your free time is spent just following story after story that never ends. This habit can reduce productivity, disrupting time studying, working, exercising or resting.
Apart from that, some shows can also form less wise attitudes regarding relationships, life and appearance. Women who continue to be productive usually exude stronger qualities than those who just spend their time as passive spectators.
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7. Playing on your cellphone while chatting
This phenomenon is increasingly common. Someone is talking, but the person they are talking to is busy scrolling on the cellphone screen. This behavior gives the impression of being impolite.
In research on social interactions, mindfulness when communicating plays a major role in building healthy relationships. Eye contact, active listening, and responding show respect for the other person.
No matter how beautiful a woman is, if she constantly pays more attention to her cell phone than the person in front of her, her social attractiveness will decrease.
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8. Often interrupts conversations
Interrupting the conversation makes other people feel like they are being treated rudely. In addition to showing a lack of politeness, this habit also reflects a desire to be heard more than to listen.
Good communication always involves listening skills. People who are able to listen until the person they are talking to have finished are usually considered more wise, polite and pleasant. The ability to listen is often much more valuable than the ability to speak.
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9. Likes to gossip
Gossip may seem entertaining for a moment. However, the habit of talking bad about other people can damage trust in social relationships. Women who like to gossip often make their friends think that if today the woman is talking about someone else, tomorrow it might be my turn to be talked about.
Research shows that gossip does have certain social functions, but negative gossip can trigger emotions, conflict and damage relationships between people. High self-quality is much more beautiful than the ability to know all other people’s affairs.
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CLOSURE
Being beautiful is not enough just with cosmetics, expensive clothes, or skin care. Beauty is also built through discipline, emotional control, empathy, neatness, a healthy lifestyle, communication skills and integrity.
Good behavior makes physical beauty shine even more. On the other hand, bad habits can destroy a person’s beauty, no matter how beautiful they appear.
Superwoman is not a perfect woman. Superwoman is a woman who is not perfect but continues to improve herself every day, because the best beauty always starts from behavior and personality.
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